Are you in a rut and not feeling good about yourself? You may need to stop and reevaluate where you are and where you are headed. Some of the first steps in self-care are just a mental adjustment. You need to think about things differently and in a positive way. You can’t stop things like depression with solely positive self-talk but it can make a difference in how you feel throughout the day. If you are experiencing symptoms of depression for longer than two weeks you will need to speak with a professional. However, for those of you that just have the blues, these tips should help. Please quit doing the following:
- Trying to please everyone. Do not do this. You will not be able to please absolutely everyone with everything you do, and that’s okay. Those closest to you should help and support you, or at least let you live your life how you want to.
- Fearing change. A wise person once told me the only constant in life is change. I still don’t really feel comfortable with major changes but I am working on it. You should too. Learn to adapt, it is an amazing survival skill.
- Living in the past. Try to live in the here and now. Dwelling on the past won’t change it. Some people really tend to live there and that isn’t healthy. Plan for the future but live for today.
- Putting yourself down. Positive self-talk really helped me in my teens. I felt ugly all the time. My therapist told me that every time I had a negative thought, to replace it with a positive one. It might sound silly, but if you keep doing it, you will start to believe it. Changed my life.
- Overthinking. If you have anxiety, you will relate to this one. The cycling thoughts at night are the worst. Try not to do this. If you can’t change the outcome and have no control, try to let go. What will be will be.
If you quit these things, you should see some improvement in your daily life and how you are feeling. They’ve really helped me and my issues. These are some of the easiest, cheapest steps to self-care. Try them and see what you think!